We’re at the time of year when the resolutions we made earlier are falling by the wayside. The weight we were determined to lose hasn’t dropped enough, and we find ourselves giving up the diet. The debt we promised to get rid of hasn’t really changed. Sound familiar? Don’t feel bad – it happens to us all.
But there are still those things we want to bring into our lives – we want to give our family new experiences, nice things, a beautiful place to live. Or perhaps our desires go deeper; how many of us want to bring more sacredness into our lives, but find the day gone before getting to it? We all have a purpose for
being on this earth-walk, but how often do we get so enmeshed in the distractions of everyday life that we never get around to fulfilling it.
How do we turn those vague wants and wishes into strong intentions? It takes a shift of our energy flow and mental story-telling to attract what it is we want. It’s shifting perspective in a way that focuses on the ultimate desire, and leads us to our passion for something.
Sometimes we talk about what we don’t want in our life, but we’re not clear about what we want to replace it with. We hear all the time about self-talk, positive affirmations – what is your self-talk? I think one of my favorite quotes of all times comes from Yoda, in Star Wars. He says “Do or do not. There is no try.” So often we tell ourselves things like “I’m going to try to lose weight”, or “I’m going to try to write every day,” or even “I’m going to try to be nicer.” Guess what? We are telling our brain that we will TRY, not achieve! And we will try – but with dubious results. Eliminate the word “try” and “want to” from your vocabulary. Do, or do not. Choose which self-talk will move us forward, not hold us back; should we say:
“I don’t want to be in debt anymore.” OR “I live with abundance and financial security.”
“I don’t want to be fat anymore.” OR “I will live a long, healthy life with energy and stamina.”
“I don’t want to fight anymore.” OR “I live in peace and harmony.”
“I don’t want to be so materialistic (or petty, or unhappy.)” OR “I live a sacred life of joy.”
Either way, unless we are clear about what we do want in our lives, we’ll never get there. So I don’t want to be in debt – let’s get past the focus on “debt,” and translate that into a positive state of being. Then, let’s go a step further. If debt were not looming over you, what would come next? Perhaps a sigh of relief, a sense of freedom from struggle – but what possibility has the new space opened up?
Believe me, we fill that space – and too often we fill it with new debt! People don’t want to get out of debt, really, they want to arrive at a place of power to freely express their real desires. But if we don’t have a clear vision of what comes next, we most often re-fill the newly created space by falling back into the same old patterns. We succeed at losing weight, but as soon as we go off the diet, the pounds start piling back on.
How do we interrupt this cycle? How do we create a positive outcome where the debt is released, and we begin to save money, or the pounds come off and we begin to enjoy the freedom and health that results? How do we bring sacredness into our daily life and keep it there? How can changing your outlook bring you positive outcomes, even spiritual growth?
We all know we need a plan. But the plan has to be so precise that when we work our plan, we release the old patterns and claim the new. Deciding what we want to release from our life, be it pain, debt, fear, weight, bad habits, or addiction, is the first step. Next we need to look realistically at all the things we do to self-sabotage ourselves, and plan 10 clear steps that will get us to our goal. Finally, we need to have a clear vision of what our new life will look like! Having that vision means that when we work our plan, and achieve our goal, we will recognize it!
How do you self-sabotage? Do you tell yourself that you’re going to try to quit smoking, or try to meditate each day? How can you change your self-talk to order your brain to work for you, not against you? Let us know – we’d love to cheer you on as you take charge and move into the life you’ve always envisioned for yourself!
Next time: Planning 10 Clear Steps That Will Get Us to Our Goal!
